Parenting Update:
Today was a trying day for me. I had to punish my son. He lied to me....and I am just fed up with his deceit. Honestly, I blame myself for not sticking with my threats through the years. For those parents out there....you know what I am talking about. I cannot tell you how many times both my hubby and I have said "When we get home your punished" and never stick too our promise to punish. Let me tell you a few things my son has done this summer.
Today was a trying day for me. I had to punish my son. He lied to me....and I am just fed up with his deceit. Honestly, I blame myself for not sticking with my threats through the years. For those parents out there....you know what I am talking about. I cannot tell you how many times both my hubby and I have said "When we get home your punished" and never stick too our promise to punish. Let me tell you a few things my son has done this summer.
- He has gestured to hit me or scare me by shrugging his arms/shoulders.
- He has spit at me (after I splashed water on him).....it still pissed me off.
- He has been caught in a lie every day. (yes, EVERY day)
- He constantly calls his sister retarded or special needs.
So, now he is punished until school starts. I can only tell you that today something kicked in, and I think the constant questioning from my son's friend over the weekend, has been repeating in my head since I have been home. Chris once again was threatened to have several things take away from him this weekend (ie. no smores, no mini golf, no pool, etc.), and he got all of these "fun" things take away from him for not listening or doing something (ie. #'s 1-4). His friend questioned: "I thought you said Chris could not have smores" or "I thought you said Chris could not swim today", etc. This really bothered me....that a pre-teen has a better sense of the "non-message" I am sending by allowing Chris to still participate in these "fun" activities, even though I told him he could not, because he did not listen to my warnings.....I STILL ALLOWED CHRIS TO DO EVERYTHING ---he had no consequences.
Today is a new day. Mommy is sticking to her "threats" and making sure both Chris and Lizzy both know what the word consequences mean.
Marriage Update:
Chris Sr., and I did not talk much today. He has some stuff going on at work, and it was his first day back from vacation.
We talked briefly about my decision to punish him. He was not happy that I took away football, and was very mad. I wish he would realize that Chris Jr., is only playing football for him and not because Chris Jr. really wants to or enjoys playing football. My heart breaks, because Chris Jr. denies that he is only playing for his Dad.
At the end of the day we ate dinner as a family and kissed each other good night......and Life is Good with the Cook family!!!!
Life in general Update:
Let's hope my ADD does not kick in by Friday. My son tells me I have ADD just like him. I usually don't keep my interest for very long. But....something tells me that I'll keep up with this blog......stay tuned!
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(unconditional love)
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LOL
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Happy family & marriage
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